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Thursday, June 4, 2009
hesitant "from the heart" post
I am hesitant to blog about this because I don't want people to get the wrong impression but I know there are some out there who believe what I believe in this area of parenting and I really have the urge to share about how it improves and brings great love in my relationship with my daughter.
We believe in spankings. When our daughter knew and understood the two words "no ma'am" it began there. Obviously the correction and discipline was appropriate for the age. She wasn't getting full blown spankings at 8 months, just little taps to the hand. It has progressed into more than that considering she's on the heels of turning two. TWO!
I have always believed in correction and discipline seeing as how when I was little, I never really got it. It has made for a hard hard time in my adult years. I find it hard to be consistent and disciplined myself, I don't finish things I start and it's just flat out hard at times. I don't want my child(ren) to go through that. I want her (them) to be well-balanced with good self-discipline skills and self-control. All those things I want for her is another reason I have chosen to forsake the "high" life to stay home with my little monkey. I want her to be secure in who she is, confident and stable. Not that children who are in childcare of sorts have problems with that, but I know it has totally changed and shaped my daughter's personality by getting to be home with Mommy.
All that to say, I have been really lacking in being consistent with discipline lately. Shocker! I have let her look at my with those sweet eyes and get away with quite a bit because I don't want to hurt her sweet little pride. BUT, by doing that, I have noticed that she has been quite the terror lately. She doesn't listen to me on first command, she's been testy and flat out disobedient which has all made for some rough days emotionally for me because "I JUST WANT HER TO LISTEN"! Well, she's not going to listen to a mommy who doesn't follow through with consequences and allows for "grace" in areas where there shouldn't be grace. Like those definite "no-no's" that have been long in place. Like the bathroom cabinets, the entertainment center "goodies", getting off her bed at naptime or bedtime, throwing food off the highchair, getting into cabinets in the kitchen that aren't "hers", throwing books off the bookshelf, climbing on the coffee table...you know...things like that. Things she knows that aren't acceptable but tests me sometimes anyways and sometimes I let it slide.
Today though, after a talk with the hubs, I have decided that I need to stop being so laxed and step up to the plate of being a true model for my daughter in the things I want her to exhibit as an adult. So full force discipline is back in works for us today and I must say, it's actually going great. I have felt such a sweet love and bond with her. She doesn't get warnings anymore on those things listed above, it's straight to the spanking spoon. So, I approach her with love, tell her what she has just done is a no-no and proceed to tell her she's going to get a spanking, I hold her in whichever position allows for a good connection and I proceed with discipline. Afterwards, I hug her and ask for a kiss and I let her cuddle until she's "okay". Then on with the day she goes. I can tell after these "sessions" that she is much more delightful and happy. It's weird. I guess it's because Mommy stuck to something she KNOWS is supposed to happen and she feels safe and secure knowing that Mommy is being consistent. I know that seems weird but I think that's how it is. Even when hubs and I are both here and one of us discplines her she doesn't gravitate to the parent that didn't do the discplining, she actually wants hugs and cuddles from the one who did the disciplining. That, in a weird way, tells me she understands and that what we're doing is right. Those of you who discipline their kids, with Christian values, probably know what I'm talking about.
I'm not sure why I just went through all that for you all to read, I just felt the "urge". Hope it did somethin for you.
We believe in spankings. When our daughter knew and understood the two words "no ma'am" it began there. Obviously the correction and discipline was appropriate for the age. She wasn't getting full blown spankings at 8 months, just little taps to the hand. It has progressed into more than that considering she's on the heels of turning two. TWO!
I have always believed in correction and discipline seeing as how when I was little, I never really got it. It has made for a hard hard time in my adult years. I find it hard to be consistent and disciplined myself, I don't finish things I start and it's just flat out hard at times. I don't want my child(ren) to go through that. I want her (them) to be well-balanced with good self-discipline skills and self-control. All those things I want for her is another reason I have chosen to forsake the "high" life to stay home with my little monkey. I want her to be secure in who she is, confident and stable. Not that children who are in childcare of sorts have problems with that, but I know it has totally changed and shaped my daughter's personality by getting to be home with Mommy.
All that to say, I have been really lacking in being consistent with discipline lately. Shocker! I have let her look at my with those sweet eyes and get away with quite a bit because I don't want to hurt her sweet little pride. BUT, by doing that, I have noticed that she has been quite the terror lately. She doesn't listen to me on first command, she's been testy and flat out disobedient which has all made for some rough days emotionally for me because "I JUST WANT HER TO LISTEN"! Well, she's not going to listen to a mommy who doesn't follow through with consequences and allows for "grace" in areas where there shouldn't be grace. Like those definite "no-no's" that have been long in place. Like the bathroom cabinets, the entertainment center "goodies", getting off her bed at naptime or bedtime, throwing food off the highchair, getting into cabinets in the kitchen that aren't "hers", throwing books off the bookshelf, climbing on the coffee table...you know...things like that. Things she knows that aren't acceptable but tests me sometimes anyways and sometimes I let it slide.
Today though, after a talk with the hubs, I have decided that I need to stop being so laxed and step up to the plate of being a true model for my daughter in the things I want her to exhibit as an adult. So full force discipline is back in works for us today and I must say, it's actually going great. I have felt such a sweet love and bond with her. She doesn't get warnings anymore on those things listed above, it's straight to the spanking spoon. So, I approach her with love, tell her what she has just done is a no-no and proceed to tell her she's going to get a spanking, I hold her in whichever position allows for a good connection and I proceed with discipline. Afterwards, I hug her and ask for a kiss and I let her cuddle until she's "okay". Then on with the day she goes. I can tell after these "sessions" that she is much more delightful and happy. It's weird. I guess it's because Mommy stuck to something she KNOWS is supposed to happen and she feels safe and secure knowing that Mommy is being consistent. I know that seems weird but I think that's how it is. Even when hubs and I are both here and one of us discplines her she doesn't gravitate to the parent that didn't do the discplining, she actually wants hugs and cuddles from the one who did the disciplining. That, in a weird way, tells me she understands and that what we're doing is right. Those of you who discipline their kids, with Christian values, probably know what I'm talking about.
I'm not sure why I just went through all that for you all to read, I just felt the "urge". Hope it did somethin for you.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Monday, June 1, 2009
what i've been up to
**Update**
I found the bubble envelopes in my mess of a craft room under a blanket that had AK's fisher price key board on top of that, on top of my printer which is stationed on top of a storage chest under this built in desk thing. Yeah, I guess I stuck them under the blanket to hide them from AK...and apparently myself.
I'm still feeling really sick so please pray for me if you think about it. My fuse is a little short and I'm the only one here to take care of my terrible two toddler. She wants to go play outside but I can't move without having major tummy cramping (not PMS cramping but excruciating sharp pain.....maybe I have food poisoning?). So yeah, I hurt bad. Too bad I can't take sick days.
**Original post**
Ready for a peak of what I've been working on?...during naptime yesterday to be exact.
I'm not sure why, but I really LOVE these AND they look super cute on AK. So if you share love for this style, head on over to Little Bow Head on Etsy and get you some ;).
I'm excited to share with you all that I got my business cards in the mail on Saturday! Isn't that so fun! I was so happy!
Today, when AK is done with her breakfast, I have to book it to Wal-Mart for some bubble envelopes and then straight to the post office to mail off some orders. I have a brand new pack around here somewhere but AK got ahold of them and I haven't seen them since. I literally searched this house high and low and cannot find them. I even looked in the kitchen cabinets, under her bed and laundry hamper among some other places. I like to pride myself of same day shipping, even though my etsy says 3-5 business days, but it definitely hasn't worked that way this go round. I was out of town witnessing the birth of my niece when I got the orders. SOOOO, they've had to wait a bit longer :(.
Apart from ALL that, I woke up with a mega tummy ache and have been taking residence on the pot. Grrr. I wonder if it was the McDonald's I ate for dinner. SPEAKING OF MCDONALD'S! I was nearing the end of my burger when I found a piece of hair in my food! Not just a piece of hair, but one a little longer than an inch and it had like a root bulb on the end...a little white thing...how frickin disgusting is that!! I almost threw up. I cannot stomach that kind of stuff. Maybe that's why I'm sick today. UGH! I can't think about it much more or I'll be sick again.
I found the bubble envelopes in my mess of a craft room under a blanket that had AK's fisher price key board on top of that, on top of my printer which is stationed on top of a storage chest under this built in desk thing. Yeah, I guess I stuck them under the blanket to hide them from AK...and apparently myself.
I'm still feeling really sick so please pray for me if you think about it. My fuse is a little short and I'm the only one here to take care of my terrible two toddler. She wants to go play outside but I can't move without having major tummy cramping (not PMS cramping but excruciating sharp pain.....maybe I have food poisoning?). So yeah, I hurt bad. Too bad I can't take sick days.
**Original post**
Ready for a peak of what I've been working on?...during naptime yesterday to be exact.
I'm not sure why, but I really LOVE these AND they look super cute on AK. So if you share love for this style, head on over to Little Bow Head on Etsy and get you some ;).
I'm excited to share with you all that I got my business cards in the mail on Saturday! Isn't that so fun! I was so happy!
Today, when AK is done with her breakfast, I have to book it to Wal-Mart for some bubble envelopes and then straight to the post office to mail off some orders. I have a brand new pack around here somewhere but AK got ahold of them and I haven't seen them since. I literally searched this house high and low and cannot find them. I even looked in the kitchen cabinets, under her bed and laundry hamper among some other places. I like to pride myself of same day shipping, even though my etsy says 3-5 business days, but it definitely hasn't worked that way this go round. I was out of town witnessing the birth of my niece when I got the orders. SOOOO, they've had to wait a bit longer :(.
Apart from ALL that, I woke up with a mega tummy ache and have been taking residence on the pot. Grrr. I wonder if it was the McDonald's I ate for dinner. SPEAKING OF MCDONALD'S! I was nearing the end of my burger when I found a piece of hair in my food! Not just a piece of hair, but one a little longer than an inch and it had like a root bulb on the end...a little white thing...how frickin disgusting is that!! I almost threw up. I cannot stomach that kind of stuff. Maybe that's why I'm sick today. UGH! I can't think about it much more or I'll be sick again.
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